(Shout out to all the introverts out there! Woot!)
Last week was a very difficult one for me. It was difficult in large part just because I’ve officially entered the uncomfortable leg of my pregnancy. I’m having a lot of trouble sleeping. I had two really, really terrible nights of extremely little sleep, and the rest were just so-so. Lack of rest–and probably hormones; let’s just be honest–definitely intensified the stress of what ultimately turned into an overly social week for me. By Thursday night, I was a hot mess. Friday morning, I groggily declared to myself and to my husband that it would be a No People Day.
There had been too many people already. Every single day had had people in it, and it was exhausting.
You see, for the introvert, social activities are more draining. This doesn’t mean we don’t like people or that we don’t want to see our friends and family. This just means that if we’re doing that all the time, and we’re not getting the alone time needed to refresh and recharge, we’ll come to our breaking point. It’s kind of the same as the extrovert being forced to sit at home alone for a week. I, the introvert, would welcome a week like that. The extrovert would go crazy. So we’re really the same, just opposite! God made us both.
So yes, I needed a No People Day on Friday. It was lovely! I wasted a lot of time, sure, because I was so sleep deprived. But I also got to do a little (sadly, non-novel) writing and some reading. Caught up a little on tasks that had been left undone. Totally ignored my phone any time it rang (such freedom! I didn’t even look!), and made no plans with anybody. That is how an introvert recharges. I felt so much better by the end of the day!
And now I’m ready for people again, because I *do* love my people! If my No People Day affected you–as in you got ignored for a little while–it is not personal! If you were one of my people in my full o’ people week–as in you and I hung out at some point and now you’re feeling a little lousy and, frankly, a little grumpy at me–it is not personal! I’ll say it again: I love my people. I’m just an introvert. I made the mistake of not saying no or of not choosing a better day a couple of times. That’s my own fault for filling up my own schedule the way I know I shouldn’t have.
If you’re an introvert, be encouraged. It’s okay to say no sometimes. Don’t let yourself reach your breaking point.
And to finish up a very rambling post, here’s something awesome I found:
(You can get this design on a T-shirt, but it sure seems like it would draw a lot of attention to the introvert wearing it…)